What do I do about my alcoholic father? Should I ask him to leave my life until he finds help?

I understand that you want to help your father but unforutnately for someone in his situation, there is nothing anyone can really do until he decides he wants to help himself. People who are addicts absolutely do have a disease, however it isn't the kind of disease that you can just pick them up and take them to the hospital. They have to make their own decision. Your father clearly hasn't made up his mind that he wants help yet. If I were you then I wouldn't do anything drastic like changing your name or cutting him out of your life. I would just keep my distance. ANd you know what, maybe YOU can be that person that comes if he needs help changing a tire. But just don't let him take advantage of you. Be there when he genuinely needs the help. And don't let his problems become the burden of your life. I'm sure that if you start going to therapy (which you don't really seem like you need one) they will give you better advice on what to do. BUt for now this is all I know and I hope I can help. **** luck